martes, 1 de septiembre de 2015

Diez cosas que la gente fuerte NO HACE....


Last night a reader named Karla sent me an email that caught my attention, simply because the subject of her email was: “Things Emotionally Strong People Don’t Do” (An interesting title for a post, I thought.)
Part of Karla’s email read:  “I love all your material.  You've helped me get through some seriously tough times over the past six months.  But even though I’ve made significant progress, I often struggle with emotional weakness.  I persistently resist what I know I need to do for myself.  So I was wondering, what do emotionally strong people NOT do?  The reason I ask is that I’ve spent a lot of time implementing positive habits in my life, but I haven’t really focused on removing any (parallel) bad habits.”
There are a million ways to answer this question (especially as it relates to Karla’s unique life situation), but since emotional weakness is something all of us struggle with at times, I figured I’d take a stab at answering Karla’s question in a general sense, for all of us.
Here are four things emotionally strong people don’t do:
1.  They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
Emotionally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them.  Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life, work on changing what can be changed, and keep in mind that life isn’t always easy or fair.  In the end, happiness is not the absence of problems, but simply the ability to deal well with them.  So look at what you have, instead of what you have lost.  Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.
2.  They don’t compare their journey to everyone else’s.
Social comparison is the thief of happiness.  Do YOUR best and don’t compare your progress with that of others.  They aren’t YOU.  We all need our own time to travel our own distance.  Emotionally strong people know this is the truth, and they live by it.
3.  They don’t say, “I can’t.”
As Henry Ford put it, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.”  Emotionally strong people know this is true.  If you really want to do something, you can and you will find a way.  If you don’t, you will surely find a long list of excuses.  So stop saying “I wish” and start saying “I will.”  Turn your “can’ts” into “cans” and your dreams into plans.
4.  They don’t think it’s too late to start over.
Let go of the idea that it’s too late to start over.  Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t… even if it means beginning anew.  Just because some things didn’t work out as you had expected, or didn’t happen as fast as you thought they would, is no excuse to give up on yourself.  Time passes one way or the other.  Do what you need to do so that, at the very least, you can look back someday and say, “I gave life my best shot.”
Remember, it only takes one idea, one second in time, one relationship, one dream, one leap of faith, to change everything, forever.  So hang in there.  Keep exercising your emotional strength.

jueves, 27 de agosto de 2015

Diez cosas que dejar atrás antes de MI NUEVO CUMPLEAÑOS.


Before your next birthday…
1.  Let go of what isn’t helping your soul smile and grow. – Life is to be enjoyed, not endured.  Follow a path that moves you.  You are always free to do something that makes you smile.
2.  Let go of the baggage you know you need to leave behind. – As we grow older and wiser, we begin to realize what we need and what we need to leave behind.  Sometimes walking away is a step forward.  (from the “Adversity” chapter of our book)
3.  Let go of feeling like you aren’t making progress fast enough. – No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.
4.  Let go of the idea that you have too much to lose. – In the end, you won’t regret the things you’ve done nearly as much as the things you didn’t do when you had the chance.  I’d rather have a life of “OH WELLS” than a life of “WHAT IFS.”  Wouldn’t you agree?
5.  Let go of worrying about everyone else’s opinions of your life. – When writing the story of your life, don’t let someone else hold the pen.
6.  Let go of your tendency to avoid problems. – You cannot change what you refuse to confront.
7.  Let go of all your empty complaints. – If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.
8.  Let go of the excuses. – If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way.  If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.  (from the “Goals and Success” chapter of our book)
9.  Let go of lazy attitudes and routines. – You can’t underestimate a person who always works hard.  Be that person.  In life, you don’t get what you wish for; you get what you work for.
10.  Let go of the idea that it’s too late to start over again. – Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t.

Note: If your birthday is tomorrow, or next week, pick one point to work on now, and then make it a goal to complete the list by your next birthday.

jueves, 2 de julio de 2015


Fuente: mi dulce tentación

- 1 aguacate maduro.
- 1 mango maduro.
- 6 palitos de cangrejo.
- 1 cucharadita de mostaza de Dijon (yo usé a la antigüa).
- 2 limones.
- 100 ml de nata.
- 2 cucharadas de vinagres de vino blanco.
- Aceite de oliva virgen.
- Sal y pimienta.


Cortaremos el mango en cuadrados pequeños y lo aliñaremos con vinagre, aceite, sal y pimienta. Cortaremos el cangrejo en tiras finitas y lo aderezaremos con la mostaza, el zumo de medio limón, pimienta, un poco de vinagre y aceite de oliva. Finalmente prepararemos la crema de aguacate y para ello batiremos el aguacate (yo simplemente lo chafé con un tenedor) junto con el zumo de un limón, una pizca de sal, la nata y una cucharada de aceite de oliva. Si nos quedara muy espeso podemos añadirle algo de leche. Serviremos en una copa alta para poder apreciar las diferentes capas y colores. Colocaremos primero el mango, a continuación la crema de aguacate y finalmente el cangrejo.

viernes, 29 de mayo de 2015

3 cosas para luchar por ser feliz


 Dear Marc and Angel,

I am a 38-year old college dropout whose childhood dream was to become a psychologist like my grandfather.  Right now, I am a librarian at a city library who moonlights on the side as a life coach.  I enjoy my day job, but my life-coaching gig is the work that really moves me – it gives me a chance to indirectly dabble in psychological counseling.  This side gig has started to gain traction, and several of my recent clients have told me that I would have made a great medical psychologist.

But if I go back to college and get my degree, then go to graduate school, then complete my internship and dissertation, and finally begin my own legitimate psychologist/counseling practice, it will take me almost eight years from today. And, in eight years I will be 46 years old!

I’m trying to decide what I want to do.  Do you have any thoughts or advice for me?

An Inspired Reader

Our reply:

Dear Inspired Reader,

Sometimes asking the right question is the answer.  Therefore, we have one for you:

In eight years from today, how old will you be if you don’t do it?

Marc and Angel

I hope this reminds you that TODAY is the day to START…

Forget the past.  Forget your age.  Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

The important question is NOT:  Are your desires going to be easy to achieve?

The important question IS:  Are your desires worth the hard work?

Deep down you know the answer to the latter is YES!

You have to do hard things to be happy in life.  The things no one else is doing.  The things that frighten you.  The things others can’t do for you.  The things that make you question how much longer you can hold on and push forward.


Because those are the things that define you.  Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living – between knowing the path and walking the path – between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with happiness and success.

Of course, the hard things are often the easiest things to avoid.  To procrastinate.  To make excuses.  To pretend like they somehow don’t apply to you and your life situation.

But reality always rears its head in the end.  And the truth about how ordinary people achieve immense happiness and incredible feats of success is that they step out of their comfort zones and do the hard things that their more educated, affluent and qualified counterparts don’t have the courage, drive or determination to do.

So for your own sake, start taking action on the hard things TODAY.  I guarantee, you will be blown away at just how remarkable you really are and just how amazing life can be.  Here are three key ideas to get you started:

1.  You need to take small chances every day. – It’s the best way to face any problem, crush every fear and overcome life’s greatest challenges.  And you get just about as many chances in life as you’re willing to take.  So never let your fear decide your future.  Take small chances every day, one step at a time.  Some will work out and some won’t.  But good choices or bad, if you never take these chances, someone else will build your life for you.  And you don’t want that.

2.  You need to walk the talk. – Do not ask others or the universe to guide your footsteps if you’re not willing to move your feet.  If you really want it, prove it!  Happiness will come to you when it comes from you.  Success will be yours when you take responsibility for making your goals a top priority.  NO shortcuts.  NO quick fixes.  NO blaming others.  NO “I’ll do it tomorrows.”  NO MORE EXCUSES!  Just get started.  Quit talking and begin doing!  Laziness may appear attractive, but work leads to happiness.

3.  You need to refrain from feeling sorry for yourself. – If you’re hurting, I understand how rough things are right now.  I just want to let you know that things will get better, I promise.  Keep pushing forward.  I know you feel like nobody really cares, but you’re wrong.  People care.  I care, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this.  This is a group effort.  We may be miles apart, but we’re all going through similar challenges.  Realize that self-pity is not helpful.  Life is not about feeling sorry for yourself.  It’s about forgiveness, acceptance and looking forward to what makes you stronger and better off in the long run.

And of course, if you're struggling with any of this, remind yourself that you are not alone.  Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and get our lives back on track.  This is precisely why Marc and I built “Getting Back to Happy.”  The course is filled with time-tested steps on how to do just that.  And I'm thrilled to let you know that the full Getting Back to Happy course is now OPEN again to early access members.

Have we been sending you more emails than usual about this over the past several weeks?

YES! Because we’re closing the doors today, May 29th to early access members and sometimes we need a little nudge to invest in ourselves.

This is not some ebook that you read and forget about. It's a revolutionary, self-paced online course and community with 60 HD video lessons, and hundreds of time-tested strategies and techniques that will teach you scientifically proven methods for Conquering Pain, Eliminating Insecurity, Beating Procrastination, Healing Toxic Relationships, Taming Life’s Complications, and Building Consistent Growth into Your Life and Career -- the exact proven strategies and techniques Marc and I have used in our coaching practice to help tens of thousands of people over the past decade.

It took 17 iterations, and thousands of dollars, to get it right.

These techniques work no matter where you stand in your current situation or what you’re up against going forward. Even if you have limited experience with self-improvement and personal development tactics. And even if you don't know what you really want for yourself…yet.

lunes, 18 de mayo de 2015

Galletas de mantequilla


- 300 grms de mantequilla sin sal.
- 150 grms de azúcar glass.
- 500 grms de harina.
- Una pizca de sal .
- 2 cucharaditas de aroma, emulsión o pasta al gusto (yo vainilla).
Para decorar:
- Leche condensada.
- Papel de azúcar.


Batiremos la mantequilla junto con el azúcar hasta que obtengamos una masa blanquecina. Agregaremos el extracto elegido. Incorporaremos el azúcar en tres tandas hasta que se integre por completo. Es el momento de agregar la harina y la sal, ambas tamizadas, en varias tandas hasta la completa incorporación de todos los ingredientes. Haremos una bola y la partiremos en cuatro trozos. Cada trozo lo pondremos entre dos hojas de papel de horno y lo estiraremos con un rodillo dejando un grosor en la masa de 6mm. Dejaremos reposar la masa al menos una hora en la nevera. Cortaremos las galletas con el cortador que hayamos elegido. Pasaremos la galleta a la bandeja del horno sobre la que habremos colocado un silpat o papel encerado para horno. Hornearemos a 180º, siempre horno precalentado con calor arriba y abajo,durante 12-15 mintuos, depende del tamaño de la galleta. Una vez fuera del horno dejaremos reposar las galletas 5 minutos en la bandeja y posteriormente las pasaremos a una rejilla para que enfríen por completo. Las decoraremos con el papel de azúcar, ya recortado, pegándolo con leche condensada.